THE ROLE AND IMPORTANCE OF WOMEN IN THE SOCIETY

Opportunities come once and privileges are rare. Combining the opportunity and privilege to interview a woman of substance, whom I admire from afar is a bomb. Having known Mary for a while, though from a distance, as per observer, I knew she was just the right person to deal with this topic that touches on women. Her love for women and her desire to see to the growth of other women is contagious. I’m sure you’ll learn more than enough from her wealth of knowledge.

Kindly introduce yourself, ma’am..

Ogundimu Mary is a self-conscientious motivated lady.
Passionate about women development, advancement and all round establishment.
She studied Mass Communication in Moshood Abiola Polytechnic and National Open University of Nigeria. Shes fondly called “MD” on the award-winning show, the Ambassadors Radio show on Unilag FM where she co-hosts the weekly series of interviews with outstanding entrepreneurs, using their stories to inspire over 5000 youths in Lagos. She works with Access bank as an Administrative Assistant (Quality Control) and is the founder of The Multiwoman Network and the host of MultiWoman show on YouTube. She is an Alumni of SMILE social Innovators Program, Alumni Niramala Chellarams Accelerator Program, Member of YALI, Member of The World Changers Youth Initiative. She’s a Speaker, a Content developer, writer and singer. She once served as a reporter in Leadership Newspapers on Crime and judicial beat. She’s a Child of God and an addicted worshipper.

What sparked your interest in women and their development?

My mum has always been my inspiration from day one and it gets me worried when I see some women who are not 100 percent literate use this as an excuse for being less of whom they are meant to be. After having her last child in 2003, in 2006 at age 40, I remember my mum going to enroll to take fashion designing classes, it looked so weird to us all, because we were all grown, at least I was. I didn’t understand until she told me later that while she was a young girl, she had beautiful dreams and aspirations for herself and that she must not die not seeing those dreams come to pass no matter what it will cost her. I held on to these words and I will never let them go. I have seen women die of a broken heart, (I lost an aunt many years ago and the situations around her death isn’t a sweet story for me), I have met ladies, shattered and broken, the future seems hopeless for them. This for me keeps me logged down in women development and I have promised myself that before I die, at least I will impact every woman I come in contact with, and help her be all she has ever dreamt about for herself by God’s grace.

What brought about the multi-woman network?

When I finished my Diploma program at Moshood Abiola Polytechnic at 19, I got an IT placement in Access Bank and after my one-year with them, I got an option of either staying back or resigning. I needed the 40,000 I was earning as salary then so much because I had enrolled to further my education in NOUN, and I wanted to relieve my parents the financial stress of school fees payment as my younger brother was also in school, more so, I wanted to be responsible for my life, so I stayed back. At the same time, my dreams of being a media practitioner would not just let me go, (I studied Mass Communication) and I had to look for every means to make this a reality, so I decided to volunteer as a presenter on The Ambassadors Radio Show with Amb. Prince Joshua Oyeniyi on Unilag Fm. So I was doing my 8-4 job during the week; once a while, taking up event hosting jobs on Saturdays and volunteering at some events; resuming to the studio every Sundays (I was presenting on three shows); developing contents for some magazines and personal use, pursuing my educational degree, functioning at church services and rehearsals and still being the only girl at home (smiles you know what that means in a family). So I got so many questions from people asking how I cope, and I respond, these things are no big deals. Well, I had some people advise me sometimes, that I was doing too much, and I may just collapse, but then, I still wasn’t doing enough I say to myself.

Just in the middle of a random discussion with a friend some years back, he kept saying, Mary, you are a MultiWoman, you are a MultiWoman; how do you cope with all these responsibilities and just jokingly we forgot about the discussion. I think it was at this point I decided to hold on to the name and started doing more findings on women doing a lot for themselves, their families and the society at large. I met some women who stand as mentors to me till date, because they are doing so much to influence everyone around them, and really, most times I say Mary, you are a learner beside this woman (lol). Maybe this can be alluded to my mothers effort in raising me as the only girl child in my family, my mother is a professional caterer, a fashion designer, a hair dresser, she runs a provision store and at different times she displays all these skills excellently, without any affecting the other, I keep wondering, If a woman of her age could do all these, then why can’t I? I don’t have an excuse. The mission of The MultiWoman Network is to raise women who are living a balanced life. Women who are thriving and succeeding in ministry, marriage, career, family, business and every other aspect of their lives, living the life of their dreams. Truth is, a lot of African women are doing so much more than we can imagine, and I ask if we don’t celebrate ourselves who will?

I’ve heard time and time again that women, unlike men are in the habit of tearing other women down, since they haven’t attained to the height of the aspiring woman, What do you have to say about this?

Well for this, I would say the narrative is changing because even women are now conscious of the fact that hating your fellow woman will lead to nowhere but destruction. During the celebration of the International Women’s Day, themed “Press for Progress” this year, what was on the lips of every speaker I listened to is the fact that we need to pull each other up to achieve the kind of progress we desire. Pressing for progress would mean reaching out to your sister, and lending a hand of support to ensure that everyone gets the best, collaborating and sharing information that would better the life of every around you. Personally, I am grateful for the women I have met in my life because never has there been a time when they turn me down and vice versa, we need each other to grow, we need each other to succeed, and we need each other to sprout. Only when we build a community where love forms the basis, can we be sure that our children’s children will not pull down the houses we are building today. We need a community where there is not enmity, where we love and care for each other, and where we grow stronger together

What’s your position on the brouhaha of gender equality?

As much as I understand that I am a woman, and I am specially created in the image of God, every day, I come to this consciousness that I am not inferior or superior to any gender. Does this mean I am in a competition with any other? No! Does this overrule the fact that the man is the head of the home? No! Does this mean that I should not be submissive to my husband? No! Having said this, the war of gender equality or gender equity as some use it (these terms are not the same please) only make me ask a question of How did we get here! Just how, did we get to that point of using directional or in-directional measures to check who should take the lead and who should not? How did we get to the point of drawing margins and setting limits for ourselves? Just how. We are all created with potentials we all are meant to explore these as individuals. We all have our roles to play in the society and I really think the best thing is for us all to play our roles well, the best way we can. Gender equality simply requires equal enjoyment by women and men of socially valued goods, opportunities, resources and rewards.” Women and men have different needs and experiences and accommodation should be made for these differences. This is my position.

With the whole feminism story and the melee surrounding it, what is the role and importance of women in the society?

The role of a woman in the society cannot be overemphasized. A woman is relevant, as much as a man is. Let me quote Napoleon that says Give me good mother and I will give you a good nation (emphasis on good smiles). This is simply to say that the progress of a nation to a large extent depends on the way the women are able to raise their children (this is not to say the men are left out of this though, it’s a collaborative effort), but most importantly, the woman is saddled with this responsibility of proper caring, grooming and training. A woman stands as a vital support system and is expected to function maximally in this area in all ramifications. An educated woman is a plus to the society because she is able to contribute to the development of the society. The famous saying of Brigham Young that educate a woman, you educate a generation explains that once this is done, her family will benefit and the society at large.

What is your final word to women and girls out there?

The kind of power and strength you have been blessed with from creation, because you are a woman is more than human mind can fathom. You are incredibly powerful, therefore, live! Live to your apex! Break your shell, know your worth and live by it. The limitation to stop you has not been created yet, so be all you want to be. ALL! The God factor will only make your journey smooth, so you need Him more than anyone else. Regulate yourself and lead the balanced life. Shine so bright that even darkness disappears at your sound. Live, Learn, Laugh, Love. Be a MultiWoman.

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GASPER CLOUD APP (SPONSORED)

How will the world be without technology? What will become of the people who fail to move ahead with the technological advancement of the world? Technology is an aspect of our lives that makes living easier for us in this jet age. Technology has birthed several innovations that would not have ordinarily been born.

In the light of technological innovations, an application was developed by Thompson Olakunle aka Gasper that works like your Gmail account when it comes to backing up your contacts. The Gasper Cloud app is an efficient tool that saves you the stress and pain of loosing your contacts when you have a change of device.

The application is designed with special features to enhance easy navigation and use. You can easily save your contacts to the cloud with the backup contacts icon, there is no more hassling when you lose your device as you can easily recover all contacts from Gasper cloud with the contact restore feature. There is also a possibility of you viewing your contact even without a device. Gasper cloud enables you view your contacts online, and you’re not left out if there is no access to the internet as there is availability for offline accessibility.

Not to leave out an important aspect of the app, there is a tool that enables users share their contacts, and have a contact SIM swap- accessing your contacts from your old phone number.

Technology keeps getting better, and developers of Gasper Cloud will love to give you a smooth experience of preserving your contacts and saving costs.

We also ask for your honest review. You can download the app from Google Play Store. Check it out here

PLATEAU (A BOOK)

In light of the recent and previous happenings in Nigeria, a group of Nigerian young writers came together to compile literary works that would serve as a means of hope to our hurting nation, and a call to action.

The stories are purely fiction, and are merely imaginations and opinions of the authors. Albeit, they portray the current happenings.

The book titled “Plateau” is hereby released and available for free download.

The book is not just about a state, but about a season.

A sneak peek into the book.

From different writers, we have articles, poems and short stories. Some of the works include: “Our Dirge”, “Heal Our Land”, “Peace for Plateau”… amongst others. Do well to find out more in the book. Thank you.

Click on Plateau to download. No price attached.

Do well to drop your review, thoughts, and share as well.

A DISCOURSE WITH DISCOURAGEMENT

At one point or the other in life, we are faced with situations that plunge us in the sea of discouragement. We are often thrown in with no life jacket on because we were not prepared when the storms came rocking the boat. With no other thing in mind but survival, we begin to find our way to the shore as soon as possible, lest we suffer the fate of drowning.

This was my fate some time ago. I set to sail on a journey that would last me for a stipulated period of time. As I journeyed on, the force of the winds sent me down into the sea when I was least prepared. I had never had such devastating experience in life. With no knowledge of what to do, I was left to swim aimlessly in discouragement. It got to a point in time I had drunk more than I could contain and was almost drowning. It was at the point of drowning, i.e, giving up that I met with someone who rescued me and took me to the shore. This experience of mine birthed the tete-a-tete I had with discouragement.

ME: What have I done to get this rude intrusion to my life?

DISCOURAGEMENT: You don’t have to do anything before I come in. I invade territories when the guards least expect, and I throw them off-balance.

ME: Hmm. So, how do you go about it. Do you come in with force, or you creep in stealthily.

DISCOURAGEMENT: Haha! I creep in by bringing along with me little things into my targeted territory. I begin to make deposits of those seemly harmless things such as failure, long-standing sickness, lack, loss, etc. Out of these things, I create a mansion, I then invade.

ME: Interesting! So, in your mind you think you have gotten me and kept me captive right?

DISCOURAGEMENT: Haha! Are you just realising that. You’re going no where buddy, you’re under my control now.

ME: Well, I’m pleased to inform you that I’m no more bound by your fetters. You’ve lost me, and get ready to lose many more.

DISCOURAGEMENT: I’ll always find my way to people’s life.

ME: Wow! Your secret has been exposed, and I’m gonna spread it to the ends of the earth, so that many victims and potential victims will beware.

DISCOURAGEMENT: Please, you don’t have to do that. You’ll render me a fugitive and vagabond on the face of this earth.

ME: Well, that is what you deserve. In fact, I’ll give people tips on how to cast you out, for the many that have been held hostage by you. In short, your days are over.

DISCOURAGEMENT: Ha! Mo gbe (I’m finished). Temi bami (I am done for).

Many times we get discouraged, and remain in it because we have failed to look on the bright side of life. We have failed to count our blessings and thank God for what He has done. We often count our woes and get weighed down by the many challenges we face. The best way to overcome discouragement is to be optimistic about life, make the challenges we face move us to God, and wait patiently on Him as we count our blessings, naming them one by one.

Discouragement is deadly. It has the capacity of squeezing life out of a person, hence we must fight it with our last breath.

THE DISTRACTING NOISE AND HIS VOICE

We live in a world filled with too much noise. The distracting noise of the happenings of the world. Today we hear of a trouble arising from one country, tomorrow we hear of mass killings of people by some miscreants and violent men. At other time we hear of wars and rumours of wars. There is also the noise of the fads and facades, the pomp and show of entertainment and the glitz of riches. Humanity is faced with the sad reality of much noise and no silence.

Had it been that the noise were channeling us to something better, it would have been acceptable. It is rather unfortunate that it draws us away from the real deal. Asides the external noise, man is also plagued with the noise from within him. The noise of worry, fear and anxiety. The noise of the many burdens we have to bear.

This distracting noise has stripped us of one key thing. The major thing that ought to guide our paths and direct our steps. The important thing that ought to keep us in calmness despite the boisterousness all around. One indispensable thing that gives a life time assurance. His voice.

Our ears have been deafened by the noise, and we have shut out His voice. His voice is what keeps any man going; that still small voice that says: “this is the way to go, walk ye in it.” Our ears have become so accustomed to the noise around and they are not inclined to hear the ever saving voice. I must confess, life without His voice is vague.

Despite, the deafening noise all around, there is a promise for as many who are willing to incline their ears to His voice. He has promised to keep in perfect peace whose mind is stayed on Him. (Isaiah 26:3). The world has lost her peace because her mind is not stayed on Him, and it is only those who are in a state of inward tranquility that can hear His voice.

There are many who desire to hear His voice, but the turbulence within and the disturbance without have drowned His voice. Many that hear Him at all barely hear Him because His voice is very faint to their ears. The antidote to this misnomer is to make our soul be still before Him. There is the blessedness of quietness, and O that we possess the blessing of quieting our soul and pushing out the straying noise, that we may hear His voice in accents clear and still. Your prayer should be “O that my sou be still in your presence

This voice that guides, gives peace with a lasting assurance is the voice of CHRIST. Wait on Him, hear His voice.

DANGERS OF EXPLODING AND IMPLODING

We live in a world where people either keep their emotions all bottled up or let it all out in a rather unthinkable manner. Sometimes ago, I had a rather nasty experience with someone I knew. Having tried to suppress the anger and resentment she felt towards me, she could no longer contain it and an innocent act of mine burst her open making her to explode just as I kept watching. On the flip side, I’m one who is good at an outburst of emotions. I’d rather hold it in to the extent of tearing myself down internally while I try to maintain a calm demeanour on the outside.

What exactly is emotional explosion and implosion, and how can it be managed or eradicated?

Emotional explosion is the sudden outburst of long bottled up emotions. It occurs when a person can no longer keep the emotions to himself and bursts out especially towards other people.

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On the other hand, implosion takes place on the inside. Rather than burst open, the person bursts inward and the harm is often inflicted themselves.

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Whether it is an explosion or an implosion, the end of both is disastrous.

Certain factors affect how people react to situations and the pressure of compressed emotions. Temperament, life experiences, upbringing, age, etc. are factors that affect people’s reaction. For instance, mine is a combination of upbringing and temperament. Being a melancholic person, who finds it hard express myself, I used to stomach all the barrage of pain caused to me by people, and when it becomes too much for me to bear, I inflict more pain and hurt on myself by finding fault with myself and hang guilt on my neck like a necklace.

What’s the danger inherent in any of these emotional reaction to situations, Just as stated earlier, the end of both reactions are destructive. The one who explodes pours out the stored up bile on others, they have the tendency to destroy things around them, and at the moment of their explosion, they are not thinking straight. On the other side, those who rather implode than explode, carry within themselves the load of guilt and often fall into a state of perpetual depression.

Having known the danger in it, what then is the way forward? The best way to manage your emotions rather than holding it all in or letting it all out is to channel it into a positive direction. Emotions must find a way of escape, however, we can control how it escapes. For instance, if someone has done something that hurts you to the core, instead of bursting out, wait for a time when you are lucid then explain the situation as you felt, on the other hand, don’t let the hurt fester for too long before you let it out. Speaking out about how we feel towards a circumstance in a calm manner is a good way of expressing ourselves.

To conclude, coming from a Christian view-point, we could take the burden of the hurts and pain caused to us by people to the foot of the cross and leave it at the feet of Jesus. He alone is able to speak to the stormy seas of unfavourable situations.

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WILL OF GOD

Tade had engaged herself in series of prayers wanting to know what God had in store for her. Lord show me your will have been her constant plea. I have not seen any genuine child of God who doesn’t want to be at the center of God’s will for their lives so I was not the least surprised when I overheard Tade praying her regular prayers. I was however more inquisitive because I knew Tade well enough to know that she had already known her ‘will of God’ so I did not know what other will she was looking for. In my quizzical manner I asked Tade what other will of God she was praying for since she has already known her ‘will of God’. Sharing her heart desires to know the will of God, she opened my eyes to certain realities.

In many Christian circles, many have narrowed the term ‘will of God’ to marriage alone. At the mention of the phrase, all ears are inclined to know who the lucky brother or sister is. We are often carried away with the euphoria of having to get it right in marriage. This is not to disparage the notion of praying to know God’s will in marriage, but marriage is not all there is to the will of God, there is much more to it.

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The Holy Writ is replete with plethora of scriptures that points us to the will of God which will be discussed further.
In John 6: 40, it was recorded as one of Christ’s saying that it is the will of the Father, that is, the will of God, that every one that sees the Son and believes on Him may have everlasting life and be raised up on the last day. In 1 Thessalonians 4: 3, we were made to understand that our sanctification is the will of God, and that we should abstain from fornication. We are equally admonished in 1 Thessalonians 5:18 that we should give thanks in every situation for it is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning us.

Paul did not also fail to admonish us on the importance of not conforming to this world, but our minds be renewed that we may what is good and perfect and acceptable will of God.(Romans 12:2). Peter also informs us that it is the will of God that with well-doing we should put to silence the ignorance of foolish men. (1 Peter 2:15).

It is the will of God that we prosper and be in health, it is the will of God that we be with Him where He is, it is the will of God that we have good homes, it is the will of God that we have all that we desire insofar they are in accordance to His will. The will of God is all encompassing.

With the overwhelming scriptural evidence of God’s innumerable will for our lives, and the abundant benefits that comes with doing His will just as Christ did (John 6: 38-40), will we continue to grope in the myopia of limiting the will of God to marriage alone?